Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Thursday, October 23, 2008
I really like the idea of marriage vows written by the couples themselves as opposed to the traditional " i promise to love you for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health..............bla..bla..bla
I've seen a no of movies where the couple wrote their vows and read them to each other and and I absolutely loved it...guess I’m an incurable romantic.....(i know some people who'd disagree tho..)lol!
Anyway, In my opinion, traditional vows though familiar may lack some of the benefits you gain from writing your own vows.
Here’s a quick review...
Traditional Wedding Vows
May or may not have personal significance
Are often merely “pretty” wordsUsed only on your wedding day
Likely don’t enhance your relationship on an ongoing basis
Self-Written Wedding Vows
Deeply meaningful to YOU
Your unique intentions, desires, hopes, and dreams are written out as reminders of what the two of you want to create in your life together.
No one has the exact relationship that you and your partner have.You wrote them, so they’re always within you, ready to use at any time.
Simply going through the process of writing your vows can deepen your connection with your partner
anyway, for you fans of Grey's anatomy....did u see d last episode of season3?
the episode where Christina( the intern) and Burke (a cardiothoracic surgeon...hence the subsequent reference to "heart") were supposed to get married ....and Burke left Christina at the altar cos he felt she didn’t quite want to get married and would only go ahead because she loved him and had given her word...
for me, that episode was “da bomb “especially the part where Burke got to run his vows by some of the ladies...
The script went thus...
Burke: Cristina...I could promise...to hold you...and to cherish you. I could promise to be there in sickness and in health. I could say...till death do us part. But I won't. Those vows are for...optimistic couples, the ones full of hope. And I do not stand here on my wedding day optimistic or full of hope.
Addison: Okay, um...
Burke: I am not optimistic. I am not hopeful. I am sure. I am steady. And I know. I am a heart man. I take 'em apart. I put 'em back together. I hold them in my hands. I am a heart man. So of this I am sure...you are my partner...my lover...my very best friend. My heart, my heart...beats for you. And on this day, the day of our wedding, I promise you this...I promise you to lay my heart in the palm of your hands. I promise you... me.What too trite? Because I can rewrite it...
Izzie: No. No. It's...
Addison: I think I speak for...every woman in this room when I say dump her. Dump Yang and marry me.
i was like "waoh!!!!.....and i got teary-eyed at that point....
Those vows were a special "love language" between the couple....though some people might find it a tad dramatic, it was supposed to mean more to them than any conventional vows would..........(someone pls remind me.. its only a soap.....lol!)
anyway, my man had better be ready to write me some deep mind-blowing vows.....I’ll sure do the same...
so peeps....what’s your take on this? do y'all feel me or would you rather do traditional?
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
though i seldom remember the phase that was "us"
whenever i do, its a series of "shoulds"
while regret to me is history's misuse
with you, i must admit its all i feel
when you said hello, i should not have said hi
should have been ungracious,should never have smiled
declined i should have, never taking the ride
that inducted me into your phony sham world
connoisseur of empty, hollow lyrics
face of juvenility, puerility at its peak
now i see beneath the facade, through the veneer
should never have made the mistake that was 'you"
...saw this joke and found it hilarous.....enjoy!
Some Bible researchers interviewed Ibo, Yoruba, Hausa
& Niger Delta folks to know what they would rather
change in the Bible if they were given the chance.
The Hausa man said 'walahi talahi, the adulteress
whom Jesus asked to go should have been stoned ...'
The Ibo man said, 'Nna, I can't really understand
why Judas returned the money after selling Jesus. In short
he is not a good businessman. '
The Yoruba man said, 'Jesus should have waited just
one more day before raising Lazarus from the dead. We had
already paid for the 'aso-ebi'. At least he should
have allowed us enjoy the 'owambe' before
performing His miracles.
And guess what the Niger-Delta man (Ijaw, Itsekiri, Urobo)
said,'Ewedo, we would've kidnapped Jesus &
demanded for ransom, rather than leaving Him to be sold by
Sunday, October 12, 2008
You are greater than your past.
You are stronger than any minute of failure .
You can rise like smoke up a chimney; you were meant to spiral to the sky.
All the chilling drafts of broken promises should not deny you the gift of life
Never forget that you are alive - sometimes weak, sometimes strong but alive
You will be right some mornings and wrong some nights, but dont stop waking up in the morning
The morning is God's gift of another chance to pass the exam
He has kissed you gently, tenderly but definitely
It is not the urgent kiss of a desperate lover who makes demands in the night
He has kissed you with the gentle kiss of a fathers fervour whose tendencies would shield you from thetrauma of the past.
You have been kissed by the father himself.
No wonder Satan has failed to destroy in the night what God prepared for the light.
You have been kissed!
This is what you have to know if you are to withstand the darkness
This is what you must rehearse against the goblins of old images and past memories that would assault your dreams and turn them into nightmares
Just as sure as a father's kiss would ease a nervous child trying to rest in a strange place, God's kiss is a sedative for you....
No matter how foreign this place in your life may seem, u must know he prepared you for it.
When he kissed you, he shielded you and you are his.
Safe and secure, you may rest in the sanctity and safety of his arms that will not fail you.
A good night kiss is his way of sealing you till the morning...and it will come; it will not tarry.
The morning is yours...spend it well, use it sparingly; it is a gift.
The morning is for the hopeful not the regretful..It is expectation..
It is the future lying naked before you...
Daybreak in the frsh hours of new oppourtunity just created.
It is an empty tomb and a filled manger.
It is life, love and hope.......
Never forget about the breaking of day. It will come.
Nights will pass, tears will dry and enemies will leave..
but you'll arise in the morning!!!!!!
by TD Jakes &
culled from Woman thou art loosed Bible
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
my last post was what?like sometyme in february?...talk about following your projects through!keeping at something you decided to do..maybe simply because you promised yourself you'd keep at it...(abi isnt that good enuf reason?)...i've definitely got a lot of courses to take in that department...whatever..whatever..i'm doodling again...
ok.. so btwn february and now?? yours truly's been there, done that,(not exactly in the context dat phrase is usually used o! lol!) but really...i feel like i've taken a lot of courses...like i've gone through a school...really...dis year has been so eventful for me in the not so obvious ways....you know...like in d ways that really matter....in my definition of me...my values , my limits.....my
dreams....u know....but the crux of the matter is...like d lyrics of a song that i absolutely love...
I'm still here...
I made it through..
so have you
come through the fire.
and i've come through the flood...
but i'm still here..
kept by his love
life is really beautiful and God is good..(for real!).i'm amazed at the way pieces of dat jigsaw puzzle called my life are starting to fall into place...I'm like waoh!...no prayer goes unanswered...
in spite of my mistakes...(and beleive me..i've got a myriad!)..i mean...jeeez...Lord u know i'm truly amazed!!!!! u carry me on angels wings .........( u just really bring special pple at timely times .....you 're soo on point! more blabbing? i really have to stop this...
i'm writin for chrissakes and i'm supposd to be a budding writer...or so i like to think...dreams come true now...abi?
i'll try to be more legible and write like the chimamanda wannabe dat i am..(yeah i know what u're thinking...but what? its my blog and i'll write what i want to..write what i want to....lol!
ok..seriously now...GOD is entirely good and you better be doing what he wants you to do! when he's got an interest in your life, "almost doesnt count"with him...you've got to get it right! the process? of cus it aint usually pleasant...but u're always better for it...and Lord! "imma say thank you again"...i see what u doing and....... i lyke it!
i randomly checked my blog about 2 days ago...saw a few lovely comments...you guys are great and the reason i'm doing this again.....
i'll be posting again...all sorts, jist, my life, any randomness dat catches my fancy...whatever......
and to anyone who's reading...i'm working on my love skills rite now..and imma practise with u..
i luv u!
Saturday, January 26, 2008
Monday, January 21, 2008
For those of us fans of Tatiana Durao, its was nice to see these pictures of her....she still looks soooo good.......
Obviously, Richard lost the chance of a lifetime...(not that i'm not a fan of "till death do us part") but i simply cannot have respect for a woman who would take richard back after all the love affair cum scandals of BBA II...whatever...i wish RICHRICKI the best...
now to the queen of BBAII, while i thot she overdid it...especially the sleeping part, Tati was definitely my most fav housemate...
I wanted Offunemama to win sha (afterall, "Arise o compatriots".....)
but i was quite dissappointed when i saw the FINGERGATE video.....
(drunk or not) she wasnt really better than Tati afterall....................
anyway, BBA II is long gone but here's wishing m'lady outstanding success in her modelling career..she certainly deserves it..
USHER LOSES FATHER
Usher's father, Usher Terry Raymond passed away Friday, January 18 at Atlanta Georgia of unspecified causes.
media takeout.com reported that usher, his wife Tameka and his mother were at his fathers bedside when he breathed his last.
Although usher's parents split shortly after he was born and Terry Raymond battled a long standing battle with cocaine addiction,he managed to keep in touch with his son (usher) throughout....
MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE.
BEYONCE REPORTEDLY PREGNANT(not yet confirmed....)
sources close to Bee say she's been knocked up(crude way to put it! (lol) ) by Jay Z and trying to keep it a secret.....
The source also claims both were secretly married last month in Paris though they refuted it. The problem is we already heard dis rumour several times so we dont know what to beleive...
but really...WHO ISNT PREGGERS IN HOLLYWOOD DIS DAYS??
Thursday, January 17, 2008
JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL!!..EDDIE MURPHY AND TRACY EDMONDS SPLIT UP AFTER 2 WEEK MARRIAGE
Eddie murphy just released this public Statement.
“After much consideration and discussion, we have jointly decided that we will forego having a legal ceremony as it is not necessary to define our relationship further. While the recent symbolic union in Bora Bora was representative of our deep love, friendship and respect that we have for one another on a spiritual level, we have decided to remain friends.”
By several accounts, Eddie Murphy and his “wife” of two weeks, Tracey Edmonds, had a very volatile relationship, which makes the official statement announcing their breakup seem laughable.
The pair wed in a symbolic ceremony New Year’s Day in an island near Bora Bora, but the wedding was not legally binding.
Things for the newlyweds got off to a very rocky start.
“Eddie started yelling at Tracey in front of people,” one of Edmonds’s wedding guests tells People magazine. “He did it on a few occasions and it was very embarrassing.”
The pair reportedly got into a HUGE fight just two days ago.
“It was ugly,” a fiend tells Life & Style. “They never officially moved in together and apparently never had a civil ceremony.”
The insider adds that Eddie seemed “very controlling
WHO LEAVES BABYFACE FOR EDDIE MURPHY??
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
a colleague of mine has gone on vacation and i have to do his job........tough? yeah...but what can a working gal do?
(short of aristoing(which is definitely not an option), a sista's gotta work......
anyway,its not been so bad..at least i'm learning something new....
sometimes tho, i wonder how i'll manage when i start a family......i sincerely hope the oil company job would have come thru' then oo....wait a minute! did I say hope? I PRAY, IN FACT,I BEG MY FATHER IN HEAVEN........that something fantastic monetary wise with less hours would have come up....(yeah! I dare to dream..cos they do come true)....
not that many people have seen my blog,but i refuse to be melancholy about that...i'lll just try some more to direct traffic here...to those who've posted a comment, thanks...i'm encouraged...
and y'all...............remember to take time out of your crazy schedules(beleive me..i know what that means) drop by and see what's up..
IT CAN ONLY GET BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
...........she definitely had it coming................
The court ruled that there will be no change to Britney Spears‘ This ruling is a result exclusively of what Commisioner Gordon heard and had before him at the end of the court day,” a court officer said at a press conference Monday afternoon.
There is another court hearing scheduled for February 19th.
Until then, there is a possibility that Britney could see her kids if her lawyers ask for an emergency hearing before the 19th and a change is made to visitation at that time.
The court officer expressed displeasure with Spears’ lack of communication with the sheriff’s department.current visitation to her two children on Monday.
Britney was not required to be at court on Monday. She showed up but left without entering the courtroom.
After leaving court Britney her manager and her paparazzo boyfriend went straight to a nearby church!!!
She probably went there to thank God for answering her prayers:Now she is free and can party, drink and drug herself as much as she likes!!!!.......
my prayers are with her tho...cos i really loved the days of "oops! i did it again!"
Monday, January 14, 2008
OMOTOLA: (LAUGHING) First, I want to say thank you for having the faith in this industry, to stay by us, tear us down, pull us up. It’s all part of the package, you know. It gets us to work harder. That’s why you do it.
Now to answer your question… Ahem, Omotola…I’m a very crazy person, so you really need to be very crazy in your mind to keep up. I think the most beautiful women today in entertainment are like very crazy. You talking about Demi Moore… Madonna. These are people that are always re-inventing themselves. They’re the people who know that their looks are very very important in their career. I know that and I made up my mind to have my babies in good time after God favored me to get married in good time.
I think God has done so much for me and I’d be so silly to mess it up. If God has allowed me to have my kids in good time when I could get back to shape, what reason would I have for not getting back to shape? So, I do all the best I can. I work out. I watch what I eat. Looking good is a lot of discipline. Everybody tells you “you don’t have to do so much, I don’t do so much” – it’s not true. Especially when you’ve had kids. Before you have kids, your body is not expanded, so you can eat all you want. You can do this and you might not add weight. But after you’ve had kids and your body has expanded, your body has been told that you have the ability to go this much, so any little lead you give it, your body thinks “oh yes, it’s time for me to grow that much” (LAUGHING). And it just keeps growing.
Definitely, after babies, you really need to watch your weight. Basically, I do that, I work out. I have a very big gym in my house. I hardly go there, but one thing I do to compensate for my not working out (regularly) in the gym is walking. I do a lot of walking and when I’m walking, you don’t see me cat-walking. I walk like –
http://www.naijarules.com/: A soldier?
OMOTOLA: Yeah. I walk and I move my hips a lot because if you’re going to look at my hips, you’ll (think) she’s swinging. You don’t know I’m exercising. I’m doing that because I know I have to … I flex my muscles and I tighten them up. Every place I find myself, I try to exercise somehow. I might be sitting down and talking to you and I’m just moving my neck, because I know that every little time I do any little thing, it adds to me. It won’t remove (anything) from me, so why don’t I just do it, instead of just sitting numb, doing nothing?
And then I try not to use any harsh anything on myself. In the short run, it might look like okay, some other people are more beautiful that you and they use all the creams and everything and they look like wow! People are looking at you like …(SHE MAKES A FACE TO SUGGEST “NOT SO HOT”) But in the long run, it doesn’t always work with them. But when you take it natural, in the short run it might not look like it’s happening, but in the long run, yeah.
I use a lot of moisturizers because in Nigeria, the weather is very very hot. I don’t really misuse them, but in Nigeria you have to use a lot of moisturizers. I’m naturally blessed. I don’t have to bleach anything. And like I said, I watch what I eat and I’m not going to lie about that. I don’t eat beef. I hardly eat chicken and when I do, I don’t eat the skin. Same for turkey. Funny enough, I’m not so much of a fish person –
http://www.naijarules.com/: So what exactly do you eat?
OOMOTOLA: I love seafood like crazy. I love Chinese. I eat a lot of Chinese. I know Chinese food is like healthy… I eat a lot of sea food. Some sea food are a little fattening, you know, but somehow I get by. You know what I do? Sometimes I skip meals, so if I eat so much today, tomorrow, I’m going to go on fruits. When you do that, you feel healthier. And then I take Vitamin E everyday and Folic Acid… Just little things, all natural.
http://www.naijarules.com/: How did you pick up this knowledge of what to do and not do, eat and not eat?
OMOTOLA: I researched because I wanted to know. I’m crazy about magazines. In my house, I have a whole library. My husband keeps going “. I’m like honey, you don’t to scream at me because this is my job (LAUGHING) Every month, I spend so much money buying every magazine there is under the sun.
http://www.naijarules.com/: How do you create time to read them?
OMOTOLA: I do. Ah, I do because I know that a whole lot of my future depends on it, kind of… it’s the kind of information I need, you know? I get a lot of tips from everybody. I was reading a magazine – I think Hello – this month and I saw a tip on what Beyonce does with her nose. Now, it’s not like I didn’t know about it before, but it was a little bit more in-depth and the fact that they talked about her and they showed exactly how she it… if I hadn’t bought the magazine, I probably wouldn’t have seen it. I could buy all the books in the world, but I wouldn’t have seen Beyonce in that way. So, I think those magazines mean so much to me. I buy them all the time. I read them all the time. It expands my knowledge.
http://www.naijarules.com/: What is it about Beyonce’s nose? There’s nothing wrong with your nose…
OMOTOLA: (LAUGHING) Sometimes, you just want your nose to look slimmer, more pointed and all that –
http://www.naijarules.com/: Your nose is perfect.
OMOTOLA: (LAUGHING) Thank you. We girls, you know… Girls never feel like they’re perfect. No matter how pretty you are, you just feel like “Ah, if only…” (LAUGHING). That’s just the way it is. You look at something and you say “Ah, my nails… I wish this thing here was not there”. You just always want to better what you have. But it’s okay, because in the long run, it makes you feel like there’s something you still need to do and it makes you love yourself.
I think basically, the first beauty tip you must have is you must really love yourself. I mean people read what I say and all that and they’re like “Omotola, I think you’re too full of yourself”. Whatever. But I love myself. God knows I love myself. And I don’t think there’s anybody that’s just as good as me. There can’t be anybody prettier than me, come on (LAUGHING). So, after all these, I just look at myself and … I’m beautifully created. Anything I want to do, its like oh yes, this is going to be just nice. I’m always thinking of what next to do to make myself feel good and I feel good all the time. So, it comes first from your heart. You have to really love yourself, appreciate yourself and look in the mirror and say wow, I’m beautiful. And then you look in the mirror and say wow, I’ve lost weight. Jesus! I’m looking good all the time. Funny enough, I don’t know if it’s psychological or anything, but it happens. True.
http://www.naijarules.com/: And on your down days, everyone should stay out of your way? (HER PHONE RINGS) Do you still call your husband “honey boy”?
OMOTOLA: (LAUGHING) That’s what I call him.
http://www.naijarules.com/: How did the name come about?
OMOTOLA: I don’t know. I think it was the Holy Spirit that gave it to me. I don’t know.
http://www.naijarules.com/: You guys are very close.
OMOTOLA: Yeah. He’s my best friend.
http://www.naijarules.com/: That’s always very good in a marriage. I always think you should marry your friend who you also love, rather than marry your love who is not your friend.
OMOTOLA: Yeah, it’s very important. In fact, if you don’t love the person, and the person is your best friend, I think it’s still okay. Sometimes, love just doesn’t hold it down… what is love anyway?
http://www.naijarules.com/: You’re happy?
http://www.naijarules.com/: He makes you happy?
OMOTOLA: Definitely. What matters most is that he respects me. He’s loving and caring. He’s God-filled. Even if you’re not there, you’re not afraid because you know this person… He probably is doing whatever he’s doing with the fear that there is someone there that he truly loves and cares for. And that’s good.
. . http://www.naijarules.com/: Okay, let me leave your family. Who is “Omosexy”? OMOTOLA: Wow! (GENERAL LAUGHTER). My husband gave me that name. He gave me “OmoT” and everybody started calling “OmoT”, so he changed to "Omosexy", and everybody started me "Omosexy". I think everybody got to know "Omosexy" because my Jeep's name plate is "Omosexy".
http://www.naijarules.com/: Let’s go back to Omosexy now. Do you think the word “sexy” should be used to qualify a mother and wife?
OMOTOLA: Oh my God, I love them so much. I thank them for all their support, for their kindness… My fans cut across everybody: the babies, young girls – you’d think young girls would be like ugh, what’s the big deal about her? Most times, you always have your fans to be the opposite sex. Its really nice. I really love that. And then guys… You have women and older people who go “omo mi” (TRANSLATION: my daughter). So, its nice. I love everybody and I thank them all. And I want them to keep praying for me, you know, because its not easy. Its easy for you to slip and lose it, but when you know there are people watching you, praying for you, who are always with you, encouraging you…You can sit tight and say yeah, if for nothing else, I’m not going to let these people down. I just want to thank them. I want to tell them I won’t let them down.
Bey looks so cute when she's just chilling...…i kinda prefer this look to when she's all dolled up..talking about kanye, its nice to know the grieving young man still knows how to have a good time!
her spokesperson said, “The beautiful healthy baby girl left the hospital with her ecstatic parents.”
The couple reportedly met at a party on November 23, only a month after the president divorced his second wife Cecilia, and are said to be getting married on February 9.
Friday, January 11, 2008
ok..i'll just assume someone somewhere is going to read this someday.....so...HI!
did i just rhyme?...dont y'all get ur hopes up...dis chick is no rapper (lol)
anyway, dis is stuff i've wanted to do for a while now....just kept procrastinating and procrastinating(some lousy habit i'm working hard to rid myself of)..afterall ITS A NEW YEAR!!
so...my full name's TEMILOLUWA FALASINNU...
i'm not sure u'd want to try pronouncing if u a'int Yoruba...if u are, you might still wanna exercise some caution!(lol)
anyway, TEMI for short...dats simple enuf i'm told...
i'm xx yrs old...i hope this year drags so i can be xx for much longer...(its really getting tiresome now...everyone wants to know when they'll be getting an iv!)
I work in a bank...i dont exactly like to say i'm a banker cos..well, except for an MBA in view...all i have is a first degree in biochemistry..(not exactly related fields..i'm sure u'd agree!)
alright....more info and pictures later...
WELCOME TO MY WORLD!