Self written marriage vows......whaddya think?

I really like the idea of marriage vows written by the couples themselves as opposed to the traditional " i promise to love you for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health..............bla..bla..bla




I've seen a no of movies where the couple wrote their vows and read them to each other and and I absolutely loved it...guess I’m an incurable romantic.....(i know some people who'd disagree tho..)lol!


Anyway, In my opinion, traditional vows though familiar may lack some of the benefits you gain from writing your own vows.

Here’s a quick review...


Traditional Wedding Vows


May or may not have personal significance

Are often merely “pretty” wordsUsed only on your wedding day

Likely don’t enhance your relationship on an ongoing basis

Self-Written Wedding Vows

Deeply meaningful to YOU

Your unique intentions, desires, hopes, and dreams are written out as reminders of what the two of you want to create in your life together.


No one has the exact relationship that you and your partner have.You wrote them, so they’re always within you, ready to use at any time.

Simply going through the process of writing your vows can deepen your connection with your partner


anyway, for you fans of Grey's anatomy....did u see d last episode of season3?

the episode where Christina( the intern) and Burke (a cardiothoracic surgeon...hence the subsequent reference to "heart") were supposed to get married ....and Burke left Christina at the altar cos he felt she didn’t quite want to get married and would only go ahead because she loved him and had given her word...
for me, that episode was “da bomb “especially the part where Burke got to run his vows by some of the ladies...
The script went thus...

Burke: Cristina...I could promise...to hold you...and to cherish you. I could promise to be there in sickness and in health. I could say...till death do us part. But I won't. Those vows are for...optimistic couples, the ones full of hope. And I do not stand here on my wedding day optimistic or full of hope.


Addison: Okay, um...


Burke: I am not optimistic. I am not hopeful. I am sure. I am steady. And I know. I am a heart man. I take 'em apart. I put 'em back together. I hold them in my hands. I am a heart man. So of this I am sure...you are my partner...my lover...my very best friend. My heart, my heart...beats for you. And on this day, the day of our wedding, I promise you this...I promise you to lay my heart in the palm of your hands. I promise you... me.What too trite? Because I can rewrite it...

Izzie: No. No. It's...


Addison: I think I speak for...every woman in this room when I say dump her. Dump Yang and marry me.

i was like "waoh!!!!.....and i got teary-eyed at that point....

Those vows were a special "love language" between the couple....though some people might find it a tad dramatic, it was supposed to mean more to them than any conventional vows would..........(someone pls remind me.. its only a soap.....lol!)

anyway, my man had better be ready to write me some deep mind-blowing vows.....I’ll sure do the same...

so peeps....what’s your take on this? do y'all feel me or would you rather do traditional?

my attempt @ poetry .........

SHOULD...

though i seldom remember the phase that was "us"
whenever i do, its a series of "shoulds"
while regret to me is history's misuse
with you, i must admit its all i feel

when you said hello, i should not have said hi
should have been ungracious,should never have smiled
declined i should have, never taking the ride
that inducted me into your phony sham world

connoisseur of empty, hollow lyrics
face of juvenility, puerility at its peak
now i see beneath the facade, through the veneer
should never have made the mistake that was 'you"

...saw this joke and found it hilarous.....enjoy!

Some Bible researchers interviewed Ibo, Yoruba, Hausa
& Niger Delta folks to know what they would rather
change in the Bible if they were given the chance.


The Hausa man said 'walahi talahi, the adulteress
whom Jesus asked to go should have been stoned ...'


The Ibo man said, 'Nna, I can't really understand
why Judas returned the money after selling Jesus. In short
he is not a good businessman. '


The Yoruba man said, 'Jesus should have waited just
one more day before raising Lazarus from the dead. We had
already paid for the 'aso-ebi'. At least he should
have allowed us enjoy the 'owambe' before
performing His miracles.


And guess what the Niger-Delta man (Ijaw, Itsekiri, Urobo)
said,'Ewedo, we would've kidnapped Jesus &
demanded for ransom, rather than leaving Him to be sold by
Judas Isi-carrot.

THE LORD'S KISS......

i was so blessed by this piece; i had to share it.....


You are greater than your past.
You are stronger than any minute of failure .
You can rise like smoke up a chimney; you were meant to spiral to the sky.
All the chilling drafts of broken promises should not deny you the gift of life
Never forget that you are alive - sometimes weak, sometimes strong but alive
You will be right some mornings and wrong some nights, but dont stop waking up in the morning
The morning is God's gift of another chance to pass the exam

He has kissed you gently, tenderly but definitely
It is not the urgent kiss of a desperate lover who makes demands in the night
He has kissed you with the gentle kiss of a fathers fervour whose tendencies would shield you from thetrauma of the past.
You have been kissed by the father himself.
No wonder Satan has failed to destroy in the night what God prepared for the light.
You have been kissed!

This is what you have to know if you are to withstand the darkness
This is what you must rehearse against the goblins of old images and past memories that would assault your dreams and turn them into nightmares
Just as sure as a father's kiss would ease a nervous child trying to rest in a strange place, God's kiss is a sedative for you....

No matter how foreign this place in your life may seem, u must know he prepared you for it.
When he kissed you, he shielded you and you are his.
Safe and secure, you may rest in the sanctity and safety of his arms that will not fail you.
A good night kiss is his way of sealing you till the morning...and it will come; it will not tarry.

The morning is yours...spend it well, use it sparingly; it is a gift.
The morning is for the hopeful not the regretful..It is expectation..
It is the future lying naked before you...
Daybreak in the frsh hours of new oppourtunity just created.
It is an empty tomb and a filled manger.
It is life, love and hope.......

Never forget about the breaking of day. It will come.
Nights will pass, tears will dry and enemies will leave..
but you'll arise in the morning!!!!!!


by TD Jakes &
culled from Woman thou art loosed Bible