Self written marriage vows......whaddya think?

I really like the idea of marriage vows written by the couples themselves as opposed to the traditional " i promise to love you for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health..............bla..bla..bla




I've seen a no of movies where the couple wrote their vows and read them to each other and and I absolutely loved it...guess I’m an incurable romantic.....(i know some people who'd disagree tho..)lol!


Anyway, In my opinion, traditional vows though familiar may lack some of the benefits you gain from writing your own vows.

Here’s a quick review...


Traditional Wedding Vows


May or may not have personal significance

Are often merely “pretty” wordsUsed only on your wedding day

Likely don’t enhance your relationship on an ongoing basis

Self-Written Wedding Vows

Deeply meaningful to YOU

Your unique intentions, desires, hopes, and dreams are written out as reminders of what the two of you want to create in your life together.


No one has the exact relationship that you and your partner have.You wrote them, so they’re always within you, ready to use at any time.

Simply going through the process of writing your vows can deepen your connection with your partner


anyway, for you fans of Grey's anatomy....did u see d last episode of season3?

the episode where Christina( the intern) and Burke (a cardiothoracic surgeon...hence the subsequent reference to "heart") were supposed to get married ....and Burke left Christina at the altar cos he felt she didn’t quite want to get married and would only go ahead because she loved him and had given her word...
for me, that episode was “da bomb “especially the part where Burke got to run his vows by some of the ladies...
The script went thus...

Burke: Cristina...I could promise...to hold you...and to cherish you. I could promise to be there in sickness and in health. I could say...till death do us part. But I won't. Those vows are for...optimistic couples, the ones full of hope. And I do not stand here on my wedding day optimistic or full of hope.


Addison: Okay, um...


Burke: I am not optimistic. I am not hopeful. I am sure. I am steady. And I know. I am a heart man. I take 'em apart. I put 'em back together. I hold them in my hands. I am a heart man. So of this I am sure...you are my partner...my lover...my very best friend. My heart, my heart...beats for you. And on this day, the day of our wedding, I promise you this...I promise you to lay my heart in the palm of your hands. I promise you... me.What too trite? Because I can rewrite it...

Izzie: No. No. It's...


Addison: I think I speak for...every woman in this room when I say dump her. Dump Yang and marry me.

i was like "waoh!!!!.....and i got teary-eyed at that point....

Those vows were a special "love language" between the couple....though some people might find it a tad dramatic, it was supposed to mean more to them than any conventional vows would..........(someone pls remind me.. its only a soap.....lol!)

anyway, my man had better be ready to write me some deep mind-blowing vows.....I’ll sure do the same...

so peeps....what’s your take on this? do y'all feel me or would you rather do traditional?

my attempt @ poetry .........

SHOULD...

though i seldom remember the phase that was "us"
whenever i do, its a series of "shoulds"
while regret to me is history's misuse
with you, i must admit its all i feel

when you said hello, i should not have said hi
should have been ungracious,should never have smiled
declined i should have, never taking the ride
that inducted me into your phony sham world

connoisseur of empty, hollow lyrics
face of juvenility, puerility at its peak
now i see beneath the facade, through the veneer
should never have made the mistake that was 'you"

...saw this joke and found it hilarous.....enjoy!

Some Bible researchers interviewed Ibo, Yoruba, Hausa
& Niger Delta folks to know what they would rather
change in the Bible if they were given the chance.


The Hausa man said 'walahi talahi, the adulteress
whom Jesus asked to go should have been stoned ...'


The Ibo man said, 'Nna, I can't really understand
why Judas returned the money after selling Jesus. In short
he is not a good businessman. '


The Yoruba man said, 'Jesus should have waited just
one more day before raising Lazarus from the dead. We had
already paid for the 'aso-ebi'. At least he should
have allowed us enjoy the 'owambe' before
performing His miracles.


And guess what the Niger-Delta man (Ijaw, Itsekiri, Urobo)
said,'Ewedo, we would've kidnapped Jesus &
demanded for ransom, rather than leaving Him to be sold by
Judas Isi-carrot.

THE LORD'S KISS......

i was so blessed by this piece; i had to share it.....


You are greater than your past.
You are stronger than any minute of failure .
You can rise like smoke up a chimney; you were meant to spiral to the sky.
All the chilling drafts of broken promises should not deny you the gift of life
Never forget that you are alive - sometimes weak, sometimes strong but alive
You will be right some mornings and wrong some nights, but dont stop waking up in the morning
The morning is God's gift of another chance to pass the exam

He has kissed you gently, tenderly but definitely
It is not the urgent kiss of a desperate lover who makes demands in the night
He has kissed you with the gentle kiss of a fathers fervour whose tendencies would shield you from thetrauma of the past.
You have been kissed by the father himself.
No wonder Satan has failed to destroy in the night what God prepared for the light.
You have been kissed!

This is what you have to know if you are to withstand the darkness
This is what you must rehearse against the goblins of old images and past memories that would assault your dreams and turn them into nightmares
Just as sure as a father's kiss would ease a nervous child trying to rest in a strange place, God's kiss is a sedative for you....

No matter how foreign this place in your life may seem, u must know he prepared you for it.
When he kissed you, he shielded you and you are his.
Safe and secure, you may rest in the sanctity and safety of his arms that will not fail you.
A good night kiss is his way of sealing you till the morning...and it will come; it will not tarry.

The morning is yours...spend it well, use it sparingly; it is a gift.
The morning is for the hopeful not the regretful..It is expectation..
It is the future lying naked before you...
Daybreak in the frsh hours of new oppourtunity just created.
It is an empty tomb and a filled manger.
It is life, love and hope.......

Never forget about the breaking of day. It will come.
Nights will pass, tears will dry and enemies will leave..
but you'll arise in the morning!!!!!!


by TD Jakes &
culled from Woman thou art loosed Bible

i'm still here!

waoh! its been such a looong tyme....! i cant even beleive i'm blogging rite now...



my last post was what?like sometyme in february?...talk about following your projects through!keeping at something you decided to do..maybe simply because you promised yourself you'd keep at it...(abi isnt that good enuf reason?)...i've definitely got a lot of courses to take in that department...whatever..whatever..i'm doodling again...


ok.. so btwn february and now?? yours truly's been there, done that,(not exactly in the context dat phrase is usually used o! lol!) but really...i feel like i've taken a lot of courses...like i've gone through a school...really...dis year has been so eventful for me in the not so obvious ways....you know...like in d ways that really matter....in my definition of me...my values , my limits.....my
dreams....u know....but the crux of the matter is...like d lyrics of a song that i absolutely love...

I'm still here...
I made it through..
so have you
come through the fire.
and i've come through the flood...
but i'm still here..
kept by his love


life is really beautiful and God is good..(for real!).i'm amazed at the way pieces of dat jigsaw puzzle called my life are starting to fall into place...I'm like waoh!...no prayer goes unanswered...
in spite of my mistakes...(and beleive me..i've got a myriad!)..i mean...jeeez...Lord u know i'm truly amazed!!!!! u carry me on angels wings .........( u just really bring special pple at timely times .....you 're soo on point! more blabbing? i really have to stop this...
i'm writin for chrissakes and i'm supposd to be a budding writer...or so i like to think...dreams come true now...abi?



i'll try to be more legible and write like the chimamanda wannabe dat i am..(yeah i know what u're thinking...but what? its my blog and i'll write what i want to..write what i want to....lol!


ok..seriously now...GOD is entirely good and you better be doing what he wants you to do! when he's got an interest in your life, "almost doesnt count"with him...you've got to get it right! the process? of cus it aint usually pleasant...but u're always better for it...and Lord! "imma say thank you again"...i see what u doing and....... i lyke it!



i randomly checked my blog about 2 days ago...saw a few lovely comments...you guys are great and the reason i'm doing this again.....
i'll be posting again...all sorts, jist, my life, any randomness dat catches my fancy...whatever......



and to anyone who's reading...i'm working on my love skills rite now..and imma practise with u..
i luv u!

my week

'twas a hectic week and there was definitly no blogging time.....it didnt start badly tho'...its just this job..it gives me no time for anything else, but the Lord knows i,m not complaining...a good number of people would give anything to be in my shoes...so......JESUS.....for the record once again.....I'M GRATEFUL!

HEATH LEDGER passed away on tuesday(remember, that handsome handsome dude in "THE PATRIOT,the shy cowboy in BROKEBACK MOUNTAIN who was in a dilemma about his sexuality?)..and boy...i'm still so pained.......its hard to beleive all of that talent will be laid to rest in a few days...........

i didnt know he was only 28............he achieved so much in such a short while...i really wish he could have stuck around for much longer. They're saying maybe it was an accidental overdose; though the preliminary autopsy is inconclusive and they found no abnormal traces of the sleeping aids in his body....

Well, he struck me as a pretty decent guy...my heart goes out to his family, his daughter matilda and his ex-fiancee;mother of his daughter ...michelle williams who must be grieving deeply at this time....

abeg, this whole gbenga-moji Obasanjo issue is so sickening and disgusting i refuse to blog about it!!!!!!!!!!!!

the days flew by till it was friday...i was so releived..i mean even tho i had this crazy-ass assignment to take home with me, i didnt mind ..

At least on weekends, i get an extra 2 - 4 hours of sleep.

Friday night was lowkey but cool...saw a movie with boyfy....tho it was one i'd seen before (AMERICAN GANGSTER)...need i say Denzel is still the man??!!!!!)

and here i am on saturday night, doing this lousy asssignment and blogging...thank God for lil mercies...

i better go to bed now else i'll be late for service...cee ya!

LATEST ON BEYONCE, USHER..EVEN TATI

TATIANA SPOTTED AT AIRPORT IN JO'BURG

For those of us fans of Tatiana Durao, its was nice to see these pictures of her....she still looks soooo good.......

Obviously, Richard lost the chance of a lifetime...(not that i'm not a fan of "till death do us part") but i simply cannot have respect for a woman who would take richard back after all the love affair cum scandals of BBA II...whatever...i wish RICHRICKI the best...

now to the queen of BBAII, while i thot she overdid it...especially the sleeping part, Tati was definitely my most fav housemate...
I wanted Offunemama to win sha (afterall, "Arise o compatriots".....)
but i was quite dissappointed when i saw the FINGERGATE video.....
(drunk or not) she wasnt really better than Tati afterall....................

anyway, BBA II is long gone but here's wishing m'lady outstanding success in her modelling career..she certainly deserves it..

USHER LOSES FATHER

Usher's father, Usher Terry Raymond passed away Friday, January 18 at Atlanta Georgia of unspecified causes.

media takeout.com reported that usher, his wife Tameka and his mother were at his fathers bedside when he breathed his last.

Although usher's parents split shortly after he was born and Terry Raymond battled a long standing battle with cocaine addiction,he managed to keep in touch with his son (usher) throughout....

MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE.